My name is Matthias. In 2014, I took my first integral coaching course. This was followed by other similar training courses and further education through numerous workshops on personal development. And that continuing education remains important to keep looking at and cleaning up new layers of oneself. In doing so, I have realised that triggers can keep popping up that make one feel resistance, in process or just not living the life one is worth living.

For me, coaching is a way of guiding people out of their stuck patterns. I myself have been able to experience over the years how liberating it is when you tackle the limiting beliefs you have been given or cultivated from childhood. I learned how the inner critic manifests violently and makes your life miserable with fear, caution, reticence, keeping yourself small, etc. It erodes your self-confidence and self-esteem. And that, in turn, determines the way you stand in the world, the way you communicate with others, etc.

And in doing so, I have only gained some fascinating insights over the years:

1. Human beings are makeable. Maybe not in the quick fix way we would like, but in a slow and sustainable way. By working on yourself, you keep exposing parts of yourself that are best allowed to see the light of day and that you can be proud of. This is how you become more yourself.
2. It's all about you. This is perhaps the most difficult thing to see, namely that all triggers, all resistance, all conflicts say something about yourself instead of about the other person. We prefer to blame the other person, but if we are honest with ourselves, it turns out that we can only really change the situation when we look inside ourselves to see what exactly is wrong and what wants to be acknowledged, healed, cherished and loved.
3. Being authentic gets you the furthest. We tend to hide ourselves behind a facade with which we try to meet the expectations of others, which prevents us from sharing what is really going on for fear of rejection. Just by being authentic though, come to know that others equally yearn for recognition.
4. Being vulnerable is the key. Only when you dare to make yourself vulnerable do you get in touch with the other person on a deeper level and feel each other much better. That gives peace and trust. And of course the context has to be safe, and yet you have to dare to take the first step, even if it is exciting.
5. You are never finished. Every time you work on a piece in yourself, you sink a layer deeper into who you really are. And it feels good to transform bit by bit like this. But there will always be a trigger somewhere that you haven't yet addressed. That should not be a reason for discouragement, but rather a challenge to discover and meet yourself one layer deeper out of curiosity.

Besides all the methodologies and tools I have been taught to coach people, I mainly use my intuition to see what is needed in your process. I sense what I can best help you with. I tune into the field of possibilities and will invite you to try things out in order to take steps. The best coaching questions I ask never come from a reasoned tactic, but impose themselves before I can even think about them. Surprised that I ask a particular question, it turns out to be the right question at the right time and often provides a breakthrough.

Again: our mind seems more intelligent than our body and intuitions, but nothing could be further from the truth. We have to rely on our intuition and our body to find answers we can't think of on our own.